Life is sure interesting. I guess my thoughts are somewhat spawned from Rheanna’s post about who she is, as well as thoughts from lessons and conversations I’ve had with various people lately. I find that I have a few people in my life that I can discuss anything with, no matter what I’m thinking or how personal it may be. With Rheanna’s post it made me wonder why that is. Do I need to be exclusive in what I share with whom? I look at the answer to this in two ways.
First, as you have a spouse, close friends, and other family members, you evaluate the relationship you have with each. In doing so, you look at the mutual love and trust that you have within each. Sometimes this goes hand in hand, other times not, but that’s another post of loving someone that you don’t trust and trusting someone you don’t love. I don’t have anyone in my life that I don’t trust, but there are different levels of that trust. There is trust of just confiding in someone and them not sharing it with others (gossip), there is trust of knowing that the person you are sharing things with actually cares about whatever the subject is simply b/c it’s a concern of yours and then there is the trust that no matter what that person would be willing to do anything to help you out. I guess in some ways multi-layered trust could happen with most people, but it usually only happens with those that you want it to, those that you love the most and make the effort to be close to. Coupled with all of this is the fact that you don’t ever feel judged by those that you really connect with.
My other view on to be exclusive or not is that maybe I just need to evaluate what I’m wanting to express. This is similar to what Rheanna shared. Often times, do I need to be sharing what I do share with anyone? If this is gossip, the obvious answer is NO. Sometimes it doesn’t appear as gossip as it may be things just how I am feeling about myself or situations that don’t seem to really involve others, just myself. Does it help anyone if I share my thoughts when they are negative? We often hear that to vent is a helpful way to deal with things, but is it? Or is it best to work things out on our own?
Ok, after all of my ramblings, here is my consensus. In our understanding of the Gospel, we know that we need to rely on the Savior and develop a personal relationship with Him in order to truly progress. At the same time, we are told that as children of God we are all to assist in the plan and help all to progress. It only makes sense to me that we would find others in our life that we choose to build a trusting, helpful relationship with. Not that anyone can replace the Savior, but they can assist in the mission of progression. The obvious person in this equation is our spouse, but some may add a best friend or two as well. When it comes to sharing things, I need to share certain things for the following reasons, sometimes the venting is good to kind of “leave it at the altar” and sometimes it helps to just have another brain to help point me in the right direction. In fact that adds to another layer of trust of those that can and do give good advice that helps another’s progression.
Basically, I’m grateful to those that are close that are there to help. You really do make a big difference in my life. Thanks for being you!
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